Tips to Enjoy Anal Sex As A Beginner

While anal sex is definitely more out there than it used to be, it still isn’t exactly mainstream yet. Despite the fact that we’ve been experiencing a sexual revolution of sorts over the past couple of decades and feel more comfortable discussing acts that were previously taboo, the term “anal sex” is often still met with a cringe. Yup, war stories heard from friends have led many people to declare that hole an “exit only” zone.

 

Avoid going from anal to vaginal sex, and risk getting infections. Ideally, you’d clean up before going from the anus to the vagina.

1. Don’t go straight for penetration. First and foremost, invest time in the foreplay. You should be highly aroused before going there, and having an orgasm (or three) beforehand never hurt either.

2. A glass of wine and romance can help. Don’t just decide to do it and go for it. While you don’t want to drink so much that you get too numb, a drink or two to relax may be just what you both need.

3. Try getting to know yourself first. Just as with any good sex, trying something yourself first may help you relax. Try gently massaging the outer opening of your anus next time you are masturbating.

4. Yes, you might feel really naughty. We all know that this is a bit of a taboo subject, and it’s OK to feel a bit weird, dirty or uncomfortable doing it. It’s natural, but it’s also 100 percent natural to experiment.

5. It’s a mess. Dark sheets help. Yes, we’re talking about your butt and things can get a little messy. If you’re shy or scared, use dark sheets to keep things from getting too weird looking later.

6 External stimulation  at first. Just as when you tried it yourself, have your partner start by gently massaging the outside of the anus. Start slow and have him pause when you start to feel funny.

7. Be sure to stock up on lube. The most important part is to have good lube that you trust, and be sure to use it on both yourself and whatever will be penetrating you for maximum ease. Water-based lubricants work great.

8. The rules about using condoms. If your partner has a penis and is using it, you must use a condom. And you absolutely must switch condoms in between vaginal and anal penetration.

9. Relax, but yes it might hurt a bit. You’re reading this because you don’t want it to hurt, right? Well, I promise it’ll be OK but yes, it might hurt a bit at the start. The key is to pause as you need to.

10. Get ready to take full control. This one is key, OK? You are the one that needs to be in control. This is a different experience for you, and you need to gently guide your partner in, not the other way around.